As yet another Valentine’s Day rolls around I can’t help but find myself a little bit torn. On one hand I can finally understand it for what it’s meant to be, a celebration of love in all its glory. On the other hand the past 20 Valentine’s Days spent alone have left the remnants of a bitter after taste about the day. Don’t get me wrong I have nothing against relationships. How could I? I’m head over heels for my boyfriend and I’ve never been happier, it’s just something about Valentine’s Days that I’m having mixed emotions about. I can’t wait to spend the day with Gavin who I plan on moaning to about consumerism before asking for my present. I can’t decide if I’m a cynic, a realist or a hypocrite.
It took me some time to decipher the mixed messages I was sending myself and in the end I reached a fantastically anticlimactic conclusion. I am a hopeless romantic. I love love and everything about it. I love the chocolates, the flowers, the teddies, and the clichés. I even don’t mind that I’ve spent the past two February 14ths working, helping smug couples to find their cinema seats because they were too busy staring at each other. I don’t like how it’s pushed onto people though. Not everyone who is single is unhappy about it. For many it’s a choice and a perfectly valid one at that. It puts huge amounts of pressure onto people by forcing the idea that if they’re not in a relationship there must be something physically, emotionally or mentally wrong with them. It would be like telling everyone to be Catholic at Christmas just so they don’t miss out.
Why isn’t there a day to celebrate the single life?
You sound really old and authoritative in this, and I’m not sure if i like it! I think we should have a day to celebrate the singles life – I’m declaring February 28th to be Single and Alone Day (SAD), that way this year we can (the rest of us) stay in bed all the next day wollowing, as we know February 29th is not a real day.
I’ve subscribed too, so this better be updated. I’m not saying anything, but if it’s not, well, Gavin may be joining the sad community after your loss
Apparently there is. Single’s Awareness Day (SAD) is traditionally celebrated on the 14th of February, though in recent years some cultures have moved the day to the date befor or after, so as to escape commercialism.
I guarantee I as a single man will not receive a SAD card though.
Actually maybe there’s a market for it? *Wanders off to call Hallmark*
Emo
You love it! I love it! All girls love the cheese! We all have a whinge over girly films and overt displays of affection when we dont have someone but when we do we turn into those starey couples and love the lovey-dovey vibe of cards etc!
So yeah dont worry us girls are complex creatures we hate valentines day when we’re on the outskirts but are allowed love it and be extra cheesy and spoilt on the day when we’re on the inside! Enjoy the zoo tell the monkeys I be back for em! haha
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